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In what seems like a million years ago, I was a hairstylist in Seattle, WA.
In 2005, when I was still in Cosmetology School, I walked past two large statues that stopped me in my tracks. I looked in and saw hairstylists wearing all black, busily moving about. Loud music, gorgeous people. I wanted in.
It was the coolest salon I'd ever seen and I decided, "I'm going to work here one day."
The only thing holding you back is YOU, and your bullshit story as to why you can't live the life you want.
I'm so guilty of doing this. We're all guilty. We dream big dreams and then talk ourselves out of them. We think about the amazing life we want, and then come up with all of the ways it's not going to happen.
We sabotage our success before we even get out of bed in the morning.
For the last two weeks I took time off from my main hustle (as a server at a restaurant) to work on my side hustle (kick ass Life Transition Coach). Being a Virgo and an overachiever, I had a nice long list of things for me to do so I felt accomplished and productive.
One of the items on the list was to do 10 Discovery Calls and connect with women (and even one man!!) on the phone, and get hired for my coaching services. For those of you not involved in the coaching community, Discovery Calls typically last from 30-60 minutes and we talk about YOU!! What your goals are, what's keeping you from reaching those goals, and we explore what life would be like if you cleared out all of the shit and started seeing the bigger picture.
Until the book, May Cause Miracles by Gabby Bernstein, I never really fully grasped the idea that I'm not my body, it just happens to be the one that I was given to walk the Earth this time around. (And whether you believe in reincarnation or not, you can still think of it in the same terms. We have this body once, but it's not who we are. Can ya dig it?)
When I was growing up, the messages I got were that I if I was fat I wasn't going to be loved, being pretty and fit is the ultimate ideal, and to do whatever it takes to stay attractive to the opposite (or same, depending on what year it is) sex.
One thing that I've discovered while doing this forty-two day practice is that I have the attention span of a fourteen day practice. So when I write my own book to help you break through your old tapes and negative self-talk, it will be quick and to the point. :-) And then I'll just sell multiple books, different volumes maybe. Workbooks. With pictures you can color in and doodle on. Because that's the kind of attention span I have. Enlightenment for the Easily Distracted. I think I just figured out my first book title. Look!!! Shiny things!!
"Stop trying to fix your body image issues and fear, and instead welcome your Inner Guide to be your guide to new perceptions." ~May Cause Miracles
I'll quickly catch you up to the readings that I've been doing. This next week is about body image. Something everyone deals with. It's not just a woman's issue. We all compare ourselves, are exposed to the media and have an idea of what the 'ideal' human body looks like. And when we don't fit that ideal, we feel like shit.
'Body Image. Our bodies are a vehicle for spiritual growth and healing.'
I knew just by the title of the next section of this book that things were going to start getting deep. What a loaded topic. If you're a woman, you've struggled with body image in one way or another. This section is going to bring up some shit and hopefully replace it with loving and healing messages.
"The more you expect miracles, the more miracles you will experience." ~May Cause Miracles
Can I close my eyes and expect the miracle that I can write with my right hand again please?? And that I'm able to type with both hands?? This left handed writing and typing is kind of bullshit if you ask me. It slows my thinking process. Bleh. It's all part of my 'journey' I suppose.
"Self-love: the place we come to when we let go of everything else." ~May Cause Miracles
Are you aware of how unkind you can be toward yourself? Think about it for a minute. Sure, we all have moments when we talk shit to ourselves. "God, you're so stupid! Did you really just say that?" But go beyond that. What are some other ways that you hurt yourself, but may not be aware that that's what you're doing. Some of mine...
"A miracle is simply a shift in perception...The moment we choose to let go of fear and choose love instead, a miracle happens." ~May Cause Miracles
When you're IN LOVE and out of fear, you'll be able to remind yourself that miracles occur naturally. And I'm not talking about being in love. I'm talking about being love. You can choose to live in fear, or you can choose to live in love. I'm choosing to live in love.
"When we're unwilling to deal with our past or unwilling to look at our patterns, true change cannot occur." ~May Cause Miracles
I've always held the belief that people don't change, unless they put some serious work in. You have to be ready and willing to do whatever it takes to change your behavior. By doing this, you're showing your willingness to shift and grow.
"I am willing to let go of my old limiting beliefs and let love enter in...Our fear-based minds believe that change is tough and self-reflective work is difficult." ~May Cause Miracles
It takes so much work to live in that dark cloud of fear. And it's so exhausting!! We just think it's easier because it's familiar. Start to think about your life and how you're living if you've been struggling for a while. Obviously what you're doing now isn't working, or else you'd be dancing around with rainbows shooting out of your ass.
SURRENDER: to give up, abandon, or relinquish (comfort, hope, etc.). To give (oneself) up to some influence, course, emotion, etc.
"When you become willing to change, you surrender to a greater perception, a loving perception...When you let go, your surrender will crack open your connection to your Inner Guide." ~May Cause Miracles