I spend a ridiculous amount of time thinking about my business, how to reach people, new ways to connect with women, how to get them on Discovery Calls, how I can best serve them and where to meet them.  So many thoughts swirling around my head at any given moment.  

So it hit me like a ton of bricks when I had one very clear thought that stopped me in my tracks...

The way you connect with your audience is the one thing you keep putting off...writing.

Ok, intuition.  You win!!  Less time on Facebook, less time watching cat videos and stupid Vines on Instagram, (although you can still connect with me there), and more time writing.  

But I want to know why.  Why do I do this to myself? Why is it so hard for me to do the ONE thing that I know will help me connect with you guys, my readers?  All of you have been so supportive, so understanding.  The messages I get from you, both on here and privately, have been so heartwarming, oftentimes leaving me in tears, chills down my arms.  It's the connection that I crave, but the connection is what I've been avoiding.  

Gaaaah...my coach and friends are all shaking their heads. Connection is what I've been talking about for the last two weeks.  But it's actually what I've been craving for the last two years, and when I'm honest about it, my whole life.  One reason I got sober was because I was craving connecting with people on a deeper level.  And now I'm putting off the one thing that makes me feel so connected and understood.   

In coaching (and in life), we hear "find what works for you and run with that".  Except I've been listening to what's been working for others, and trying it on for size.  And it hasn't fit.  At least not the way I like it to.  I want loose, comfy, flowy, no shoes, messy hair, no makeup, beachy hair and probably pulled out from my bag because I wore it yesterday.  That's me!!  That's how I function these days.  Comfort.  Easy.  Flowing.

So I will be letting the words flow.  Out of my head and into cyberspace.  Minimal editing.  Not worried about how it's going to come off, who it will offend or touch or reach.

My therapy, my flow, my process.  


With this new awareness comes new accountability measures.  I know me.  So well.  And unless I put something into place that will hold me accountable, this will just be another thing that I say I'm going to do. Which is why I now have an Accountability Partner!!  It started with a daily gratitude list so I can focus on my job at the restaurant while I build my coaching practice.  I email her everyday before my shift 10 things I'm grateful for.  It's a great way to start the day off positive and on the right foot.  

When my Accountability Partner (AP) asked me how I'd like to be held accountable, I knew I needed to step up my game. I'm sharing with you what measures I have in place so you can incorporate an AP and start seeing some massive changes in your own life!!  

Tonight I will publish this article by 9pm CST and send it out to the people who have signed up for my newsletter as well.  I will continue to publish weekly material by Sundays at 9pm, otherwise I will be sending my AP $25 via PayPal. Good or bad, money is my motivator.  It's what's going to work for me.  And my reward will be doing a happy dance because I don't owe her $25 and I get to connect with all of you!!

So, let's talk about you!!!  What are you putting off?  What is your intuition telling you loud and clear to do?  When you get quiet, what do you hear?  What do you need to do to move your business forward, to improve your relationship, to take care of you?  How would you like to be held accountable?  Who will you ask to be your Accountability Partner?  What will the consequences be if you don't follow through?  

Please share below what you've come up with!!  Get creative!  Have some fun.  And start making cool shit happen in your life one step at a time!