Until the book, May Cause Miracles by Gabby Bernstein, I never really fully grasped the idea that I'm not my body, it just happens to be the one that I was given to walk the Earth this time around. (And whether you believe in reincarnation or not, you can still think of it in the same terms. We have this body once, but it's not who we are. Can ya dig it?)
When I was growing up, the messages I got were that I if I was fat I wasn't going to be loved, being pretty and fit is the ultimate ideal, and to do whatever it takes to stay attractive to the opposite (or same, depending on what year it is) sex.
As an adult, that turned into a crippling fear of being unlovable and of being cheated on if I gained weight. I'm still fighting with that voice in my head that tells me I have to look a certain way in order to 'earn' my love.
It's exhausting, it's debilitating at times, and it's complete and utter bullshit.
This book is asking us to look at our bodies in completely new, mind-blowing ways. Gabby is asking us to stop looking at our physical bodies for what they can do, what they look like, and instead consider them to just be vessels that carry our spirits.
I can dig it, especially if it's going to help me love my round tummy and full hips more. I love the idea of taking away the emphasis of what our bodies can do...the handstands that I love, the weightlifting, the difficult asanas that I've spent so much time mastering...and love putting the focus on what I was put on this earth to do, which I truly believe is to help people and inspire them to live their best and most fulfilling lives.
Our body's purpose is not to decorate the world. Yes, we can still take care of it, eat well, exercise, look good and feel confident, but it's not what we're here to be.
An exercise she has us do is replacing Fearful Thoughts with Miracle-Minded thoughts, listing all of the ways the ego's fear has affected your perception of your body. Then, to counter that, writing a Miracle Minded response.
Fearful thought: I am afraid that if I gain weight it means that I am unlovable and my boyfriend will leave me. (Ouch!!! This is a really hard one. Gaping, open wound showing right now!!)
Miracle-Minded Response: I recognize this fearful thought as my ego. I invite my Inner Guide to transform this thought and remind me that my body is here to show love, be love, and feel love. I accept that these were messages given to me that caused me to live in fear, and I'm ready to live IN LOVE now.
What messages have you been told, and have been telling yourself, that are causing you to live in fear? What is the Miracle-Minded Response to help you look at this, and your body, in a completely new way?